Why 'Girl, Stop Apologizing' By Rachel Hollis is a Life-Changing Read
Girl, Stop Apologizing is a top-selling read in the U.S. and world wide, and it’s successful for so many reasons.
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An Introduction by Rachel Hollis,
"There is so much untapped potential inside people who are too afraid to give themselves a chance. Right now there are women reading these lines who have ideas for nonprofits that would change the world... if only they had the courage to pursue their dreams.
There are women reading these lines who have the potential to build a company that would alter their families' lives if only they had the audacity to believe it would work. Right now there are women reading these lines who would invent the next great app, design the next great fashion line, write the next great bestselling book...if only they believed in themselves.
A dream always starts with a question, and the question is always some form of what if...
What if I went back to school?
What if I tried to build that?
What if I pushed myself to run 26.2 miles?"
I’m sharing and fan girl-ing in this post, how this incredible woman – Rachel Hollis – plays an integral role every single day in helping millions of people, including myself, to accelerate in life, in building businesses, and in teaching us how to continuously show up for ourselves and to connect with our truest identities, regardless of other people’s opinions.
Every time I pick up Girl, Stop Apologizing by Rachel Hollis, a personal shift happens within me and usually this shift is a mental transition from a negative to a positive state.
Hollis has seen so many times how women are not living into their full lives and their potentials.
This book is a guide on actionable steps to take.
We live in a time that is filled with materials from influencers and inspiring individuals praising the benefits of maintaining a healthy lifestyle.
In a world inundated with Youtube channels and thousands of interesting folks, Rachel Hollis is the best motivational speaker out there and 90% of her content online is for free.
Rachel Hollis is a two-time New York Times and #1 USA Today bestselling author.
She’s a top business podcaster, and one of the most sought after motivational speakers in the world.
She is one of the real authors out there who candidly says it all to her fans.
Her motivation continues to paint a true picture of life, the excuses we make for ourselves, and how to let go of negativity.
Her framework is built around the idea that planning for your day intentionally sets you up for ultimate success not just for the week ahead but for the entire year.
Her accounts on success and failed attempts are raw which explains how she built a global media fanbase with millions of followers.
As a proud working mama of four, she is fun to watch on social media, as she shares with her fans her personal struggles, victories, methods, and stories of trials and errors in her business and with motherhood.
Her transparent personality is why she is the best, proving that she knows what she’s talking about around the scopes of her life.
Hollis has an unmatched level of dedication to her fans. Let’s say for some reason you are reading this post but don’t know who Rachel Hollis is, just a quick Google search would clarify.
Hollis is an author, a You-tuber, and a blogger, with a #1 top business podcast called Rise, where she invites amazing people to share their techniques in business as she gives out secrets that are life changing for entrepreneurs.
You can find her streaming online every morning at 8:00 am CST on social media platforms.
There is the amazing Rise personal growth weekend conference that I plan on attending one year, fingers crossed.
In addition to her business podcast, she hosts a weekly Rise Together podcast with her husband Dave.
If you want to learn more about Rachel’s books, journals, products, and speaking engagements check her out on The Chic Site.
The Start Today Journal
Girl, Stop Apologizing is not the only reason I love what the Hollis team is all about.
The Start Today journal is a product that intentionally helps you accelerate in your life and be a better version of yourself every single day.
This journal is a guide to operate and plan for your life, everyday.
I’d like to think of this journal as part of meditating each morning.
Writing down gratitude and what you feel thankful for in your life, is surely a way to stay present and focus on your wins to ensure productivity and proactivity.
This is a personal notebook designed for you to write your dreams down and be concise with your missions and life tasks.
I think it sold out in May though but will probably be back in stock, check out her website.
Simply, you write down the five things you are grateful for, and ten things you already made happen, but actually are dreams waiting to be real.
This format of writing for the future like it’s the present is super effective.
Let’s say you want to lose weight, start a business, or run for a half marathon, you document your goal everyday in your Start Today Journal.
The journal includes dreams that will make you visualize your perfect reality.
In my journal, I write out a multitude of things from simply being grateful that I got out of bed today, to documenting a pretend dream/reality that has already happened.
In my case, I write down that my blog, Design for [Everyone] is the number one go-to resource on technology and mindfulness.
Hollis has this technique that if you manifest in a thing you want so very bad and document it as if it has already happened to you, it turns into a reality, it’s not magic, but the power of believing is so strong.
Also, if you want to catch Hollis and her husband Dave in their element, make sure to tune in to their live stream the Start Today morning show on Facebook and Instagram every morning at 8 am CST, five days a week. They talk about family and company updates and share personal growth tools and life hacks. They put on an awesome show, say funny stuff, and graciously host a Q & A at the end.
One of the hundreds of reasons why I watch the Hollis family is because as Rachel says, if you own the morning you own the day. If you own the day, you own the week. I’m all about proactively planning my day because I care that my work is done by the end of the week without going insane.
What Makes Rachel’s Message So Personal & Influential
Only some of the concepts in her book are not invented by Rachel Hollis herself. But she invented her personal techniques and mastered them in her own life and created her own concepts that fit her and are customizable for 1000s of women’s needs.
So this is a little subtle message for the critics out there who are going hard on the originality of her content.
Some critics may say that she reuses original quotes but that is what literary work is meant to do.
Reconstructing and Reusing words from world history isn’t a bad thing in any field.
Hollis makes these concepts fit around our modern day society in how we show up for ourselves everyday using methodical and consistent steps.
Hollis is not perfect, like us, she puts in the work to change from within.
When she experienced burn out, she took a hard look at her daily life and knew she had more energy in her to allow her to continue to move forward and show up for herself everyday.
And it was hard to keep up but she bravely documents her process with her audience.
When we think of failure, we immediately associate it with disappointment.
Hollis is very organized giving her readers ideas to look inwards, monitor habits, and to continue having faith in themselves when no one is looking.
Hollis is my mentor and she doesn’t even know me.
I follow her posts and live streams religiously on social media platforms and have picked up her book and ranked it as #1 on my personal list of 2019 reads, and I plan to go back and read her previous books and learn more from and about her personal growth journey.
The Message Behind Girl, Stop Apologizing
Hollis is true at her core, she keeps facts real, her writing style is fresh and succinct. Her messages are raw and eerie at times, but absolutely genuine and come from the heart.
I finished reading Girl, Stop Apologizing by the end of the first week of it arriving in the mail. Hollis encourages readers by breaking down the book into three parts: “Excuses to Let Go Of”, “Behaviors to Adopt” and “Skills to Acquire.”
If you are reading this article in May 2019, you can tune in every morning for the #GSA Book Club.
Dave and Rachel are hosting a book club and have a free pdf sheet you can download and follow along. Be sure to subscribe to her weekly newsletter on the chicsite.com.
Even after reading her book, I continue to pick it up every other day to stay on track. I tagged her most essential quotes, rules, and statements with post-it stickers across the entire book.
Every time I open Girl, Stop Apologizing and land on a random page or topic, my perception shifts based on how I am doing and feeling on that particular day.
Her intake on life is seriously inspiring, her pumped-up energy demonstrates to her audience that being motivated can be easily acquired, you just got to set yourself up with a successful plan. Her content never fails to play a role in shifting my mental mode.
In my personal life, If I’m feeling apologetic towards someone who has wronged me, Hollis’s boost of refreshing content across her social media outlets give me energy. Selflessly, I am ready to reply how I don’t give a f*** (idgaf) about a certain situation that does not concern me. If a problem arises at work, I take a short break from reacting, pick up her book, and affirmatively respond with positive actions.
Rachel’s work ethics are astounding as she offers dry-cut and tangible solutions to situations which I find very professional in a world mostly dominated by men or people who are most likely to judge others based on their own life-perceptions. My empathy levels have increased towards myself and individuals who are not always easy to deal with.
Throughout her book, I’ve learned how to practice patience and genuinely love myself for who I am. Her book is an essential tool for women who juggle around many life-tasks and her candid nature allows us to visualize as readers what her busy-successful life looks like, and it’s not always perfect, but it is always real.
She won’t bore you with complex theories to acquire, she keeps it universally simple and applicable so the concepts can settle in and resonate with her readers. Hollis doesn’t paint a flowery picture about life, being a mother of four, a writer, a speaker, an entrepreneur, a wife, a half-marathon runner, and now a public figure, she keeps it all real.
She gives hope for all of us who seek change in our lives and in our world. She’s can be a refuge for those who want to pursue a lifelong dream that looks different from our family members or friends’ lives, which is surely difficult when we’re facing an uphill battle to make it to the top.
Some folks have asked Hollis on Instagram if men can read this book, and I loved her response on this question, she has learned and read numerous books created by male authors and doesn’t see why not, so the answer is of course men can read this book! The more men read it, the more it might make sense to them on a personal level of why, to them, women usually seem stressed out and it would always add hope to all the women who want to share these truths with men and make space for them to relate, so yes, please men, check this book out.
Rachel Hollis on why she wrote this book says:
I wrote this book as the next step for everyone who read Girl, Wash Your Face. It’s about taking ownership of your hopes and dreams then drowning out the noise of other people’s opinions. Girl, Stop Apologizing holds the most tangible advice on how to achieve your goals and the steps you need to take to get there. At the end of the day, I really wrote this book to inspire women to live unapologetically as yourself. To learn more about WHY I wrote Girl, Stop Apologizing check out the video below!
Perception and Positive Change
The reason why I’m sharing this article is because these life-changing results happened for me, in less than 90 days. I have benefitted from her sharing tips on life, work, family, health, and her ambition that everyone catches once you listen to her message. Her wisdom sheds light on how to be a better version of yourself. I’m in total awe of Rachel’s approach on life by telling it as-it-is to her followers and how hard it can be to stay on track.
Rachel came into my life during the last ninety days of 2018, when she and her husband Dave were working on a 90 day challenge for the end of 2018, and sharing their daily progress on The Morning Show, hosted daily by Dave and Rachel on social media. I took this challenge as an amazing opportunity lead by the Hollis family and decided to start making true change to my life.
Some of the main topics for the 90-day-challenge were around: Wake up early, you can’t wake up early if you’re going to bed late. You have to show up for yourself so that you can show up for others. Drink water equal to half your body weight in liters. Give up one category of food for an entire month. Work out everyday for thirty minutes. Clean up your physical space so you can have a clear head, and so on.
The Personal Growth I Started to See Happen In My Life
I’m a numbers gal, I love metrics, I always seek measuring content by using quantity, so when Dave and Rachel Hollis talked about finishing the year strong and working really hard for the last ninety days of the year, in every single aspect of life, I was all in.
Five to Thrive was the name of the challenge and I followed it religiously and methodically, and voila, I started seeing magic happen in my life! On a personal level, my habits shifted, my perceptions changed along with my energy levels were consistently on the rise. My empathy levels grew especially to folks who were bitter.
After completing the ninety days in 2018, I now, six months later, get up early seven days a week - with no alarm - like 5:30 am! I work a bit after dinner till 9:00 pm which is late for me but because I love writing in quiet at night for a few hours, and I absolutely love almost every minute of my day job, my workout routine and yoga practices, thanks to her. I’m more connected to my partner, my family, and to myself more than I ever had in all my thirty years.
I was a different character before knowing Rachel, the Hollis family, and all their good work. I quit my job and was so terrified of making big decisions. I moved across the country with my partner, I’m from New York and we now live in California, a dream I never ever thought was possible.
Moving to the west coast required a ton of rigor and discipline. From decluttering my life, learning how to become a minimalist, how to sell used clothes, furniture, and books. The hardest thing about moving from the east to the west coast, was leaving a cushy job and my family who lives less than an hour away in Brooklyn and had us over every Sunday dinner and always took care of me. Moving to the west coast meant I had to grow up, get my life in order, and in a way, finally live my truest potential and for me not for anyone else.
I became the person who I am today, building a company with my partner along with running a blog that is read by thousands of users, thanks to Rachel’s subtle motivation. Leaving my 9 to 5 secured job after earning my Master’s Degree in an unrelated field really shook my life around but in positive tides. I stood up for myself because no one else would, which is the framework of her book. If you can’t change or show up for yourself, no one will do it for you.
This is one of my favorite videos of Rachel’s her Take Control of Your Life and (do yourself a favor) make sure to subscribe to her Youtube channel.
Here Are 10 Key Takeaways From This Super Awesome Read
I won’t spoil this amazing read because: a) it would be a disservice to the original content; b) you should totally read it if you want to do the work because no matter how I rephrase or quote Girl, Stop Apologizing, it won’t be the same as reading it on your own time.
But here are some key takeaways I’d like to share with my fellow readers. Thankfully, as I mentioned above, I have labelled all the interesting points out of the hundreds of points she’s made, and was able to find some of the top selling points on this read:
“Women are brutal on themselves, and they often talk themselves, and often talk themselves out of their own dreams before they even attempt them,
I believe we can change the world. But first, we’ve got to stop living in fear of being judged for who we are,
A goal is a dream with its work boots on. A goal is a dream you’ve decided to make real,
"A goal is a dream you've decided to make real. A goal is a destination you're working toward instead of an idea you're only considering or hoping for. Hope is a beautiful thing and an incredibly valuable tool to help keep us motivated and inspired about the possibility for the future. But let's be very clear on this point: hope is not a strategy ... You've got to be intentional, and you've got to decide right now that you can be whoever you want to be and achieve whatever you want to achieve."
Later, Hollis writes of the permanence of goals:
Really, truly chasing down a goal changes not just that specific aspect of your life but how you approach life on the whole. Forever.
4. We can change the world. We’ve got to stop living in fear of being judged for who we are,
5. Hope is not a strategy,
6. Dreams and goals are very different,
7. Celebrate the wins,
8. Embrace Failures,
9. Ten years. Ten dreams. One goal, 10, 10, 1,
10. You can achieve any goal regardless of age. Get past the idea that rules apply to certain people at a particular life stage.
The GSA Bookclub
To top things off, Girl, Stop Apologizing (GSA) has a livestream bookclub online for free! Every day during May, Rachel and Dave Hollis will be streaming live and talking in-depth about their book using worksheets. You got to check it out on Facebook or Instagram. If you go on thechicsite.com/email you will get the 40 page pdf worksheets to follow along for free. It’s the best bookclub running in May hosted by the author who graciously shares tips on productivity and how to stay focused.
Amen! To that Rachel! Thank you for sticking around for years and spilling your heart out and sharing content over hundreds of Youtube videos for us to learn! Keep on shining girl, we’re all rooting for you!
“If not now, then when.” Rachel Hollis.
One Last Thing: The Rachel Hollis QVC Collection
Rachel’s apparel line with QVC was inspired by the amazing women in her community. I purchased this Stripe Tee and it’s so comfy, I absolutely love it!